Orientation to AVRT-Based,
Family-Centered, Addiction Recovery
©2010, Jack Trimpey. All rights reserved.
Now that you have a general overview of family-centered recovery, here is more orientation to the very important work you must do in order to qualify for family membership. Remember that recovery group participation and addiction treatment services are anti-family, in that they are addict-centered, making the family partly responsible for your misconduct, and requiring them to tolerate life under the cloud of one-day-at-a-time uncertainty about your next, yummy “relapse.” AVRT-based recovery is an immediate, uncomplicated, private
event, and is not a long, melodramatic process of gradual
self-improvement. As such, AVRT® is the crown jewel of addiction
What is addiction?
Addiction is a voluntary behavior (such as drinking alcohol or using drugs) that persists against your own
own better judgment. Thus, addiction cannot be “diagnosed” or
attributed to you by others, including physicians. It is solely up to
you to decide if your drinking threatens or harms others and yourself.
You must decide now whether continuing your addictive pleasures is worth the
destruction that will likely result. In other words, you are free to choose between
drinking and not drinking — between the high life and family life, between right and wrong.
If you believe there is nothing wrong with your own
drinking/using, then you are free to continue, provided you are willing
to accept the likely consequences. If you suspect you have a problem with alcohol and other drugs, however, you probably do
have a problem, and you would be very wise to learn how to summarily
quit your addiction altogether. The more seriously addicted you are,
the more likely it is that you will recover in a very short time by
learning Addictive Voice Recognition Technique® (AVRT®), right here.
What is Addictive Voice Recognition Technique® (AVRT®)?
AVRT® is a thinking skill based upon the successful experiences of people who have independently recovered
from serious addictions to alcohol and other drugs. Independent
recovery is commonplace, occurring in every community many times a day.
You know independently recovered individuals yourself, possibly in your
own family, certainly in your neighborhood.
You originally possessed a moral conscience with the ability to
choose between right and wrong. Addiction washed all that away. AVRT®
re-connects you with your original, growing self, as you were before
you slid into the swamp of addiction.
Recovery is accomplished through a personal commitment to permanent abstinence called, the Big Plan, backed
up by the learned ability to catch yourself in the process of changing
your mind. The ability to recognize the AV must be learned
because, while in addiction, the AV appears to be you. Only in the
context of your Big Plan, may the AV stand out for recognition.
AVRT® is not a form of substance abuse counseling, addiction
treatment, occultism, spirituality, or religion. It is not part of, nor
is it based upon, any psychological theory, including
cognitive-behavioral psychology. AVRT is a summary of your native beliefs and values acquired during childhood but under assault by your addiction, ideas of honesty, integrity, personal responsibility, industriousness, love, affection, loyalty, self-discipline, compassion, cheer, generosity, and mutual respect. In other words, you don't have to learn anything new here, but only abandon your addiction and default to your original family identity -- no treatment, no new religion, no surrogate family, no evening supervision, no steps, no bad company. It's just you, all on your own, returing by free will to your right mind and original identity as an abstinent human being.
What is the Addictive Voice (AV)?
We all have a noisemaker in our heads that can create imagined
sounds, such as music, sound effects, and the spoken language. The AV
is the voice in your head that tells you to “Do it!” (drink/use) in a
thousand different ways. It is not a devil or other companion on your
shoulder, although it may sometimes create that illusion. It is a
comprehensive style of thinking that perpetuates your addiction and,
worst of all, appears to you to be you.
The Addictive Voice (AV) is any thinking that supports or suggests the possible future use of alcohol or other drugs.
The Beast is addictive desire; the desire to get high.
AV —> Beast = Bark —> Dog
The AV is the voice of your desire for the effects of alcohol
and other drugs, a voice you can actually hear with your “mind’s ear.”
We call your desire for addictive pleasures “the Beast®,” a word that
has both physical and spiritual dimensions. The AV is the sole cause of your addiction. In other words, you cannot take voluntary action such as drinking/using without first thinking about it. Those thoughts are your Addictive Voice, the voice of the Beast. You are responsible to recognize your Addictive Voice as always wrong, in the strong sense of wrong, i.e., immoral. When you learn to recognize the AV, it is no longer you, but "it," something that is separate from you, something you can hear. After all, no thought called “it” can do anything. Only “I” can execute voluntary behavior with my hands, mouth, and feet.
But I’m a Really Tough Case!
So much the better. The best motivation for addiction recovery
is raw fear, although persistent anxiety and depression are also fine
motivators. When finally faced with intolerable losses, many addicted
people finally take the action they have put off for too long, which is
a final declaration, “I will never drink again.” Following that vow,
many discover the remarkable ability to catch themselves in the process
of returning to alcohol and other drugs. AVRT® summarizes the common
thread of success among seriously addicted people who finally get a
grip and abandon their addictions. With AVRT®, addiction recovery is
always powerfully simple, regardless of how seriously addicted you are.
Although you may not yet be in the grip of horror, you may be sanely alarmed at the extent drinking/using is ruling your life, and see
clearly where your addiction is taking you. Regardless of
how dire your straits may be, AVRT® will guide you over the threshold to
life after recovery in as short a time as you choose. Even today!
"All I need is to cut back, drink moderately."
You have come to this website because you are a problem drinker,
which means that small amounts of alcohol disable your judgment so
that, after “just one,” you make the serious error of continuing
to drink, which leads to deep drunkenness and grievous, antisocial
behavior. Although this has happened to you many times, against your
better judgment, you are still seeking a way to continue drinking without getting into trouble. This exactly fits our definition of addiction, a condition for which
the only sane and reasonable remedy is to immediately and permanently
discontinue the use of alcohol and other illicit drugs. If drinking/using were only a small pleasure in the larger picture of things, it would be logical and easy for you to walk away from it as you would a tasty food that always gave you indigestion. Alas, you have become a pleasure addict, and through the eyes of your addiction, you
cannot imagine a satisfactory life without the option to get high. Such a life would be unbearably boring, without cheer and comfort, hardly worth living. That is the nature of your Beast, an animal mentality that thinks pleasure is happiness and survival. Poor thing.
The desire to drink moderately is a bit like wanting to be
taller. The only people who want to be taller are people who think
they’re too short. The only people who want to drink moderately have
already demonstrated they don’t even want to. After all, if you
actually wanted to drink moderately after having one drink, would you be a problem drinker? All
problem drinkers have the death-defying wish to enjoy addictive
pleasures without getting in trouble. The desire to drink moderately is
a red flag for anyone having troubles related to alcohol and other drugs.
There is absolutely no difference between an “alcoholic” and a
problem drinker. An “alcoholic” is just a problem drinker with a
doctor’s excuse. Others would say an “alcoholic” is just a
self-excusing ass, a problem drinker who attends AA. Don’t pretend to be an alcoholic, or you’ll end up acting like one. A good case in point is the tragic story of Audrey Kishline, the
founder of Moderation Management, a club for problem drinkers who yearn
to continue drinking without getting into trouble. Full of good intentions, and supported by many counseling professionals, she ended up in jail for vehicular manslaughter when, while driving the wrong way on a freeway, she crashed into a car, killing a man and his young daughter. During her well-publicized incarceration, Moderation Management continued to grow, just as recovery groups always thrive in the midst of their own mayhem.
If you continue your death-defying attempts to drink moderately, we hope you get all the pleasure you hope for, because your pursuit of pleasure is exposing you and others to enormous risks.
Can I use AVRT® along with recovery group participation?
No. Not if you take either approach seriously. AVRT-based recovery and group based recovery are incompatible. They are polar opposites, point for point, and in every respect. Your Beast yearns to be among its own kind. Here are a few examples:
- Recovery groups are addict-centered surrogate families; AVRT-based recovery is family-centered.
- AVRT-based recovery is an individual responsibility, not a group project.
- In recovery groups, relapses are innocent symptoms of addictive disease; in AVRT-based recovery, the act of self-intoxication is, in itself, immoral conduct.
- In recovery groups, your family is expected to accommodate one-day-at-a-time sobriety; in
AVRT-based recovery, you will accommodate your family’s very reasonable
demand for immediate, permanent abstinence.
- Recovery groups are doctrine-bound. AVRT is based upon your native beliefs and original family values.
- God-as-addicts-understand-him is infinitely tolerant of substance abuse. You are capable of better moral judgment than a deity of that sort.
AVRT® brings the exciting discovery that the
12-step program is the doctrinal form of the Addictive Voice, created
by and for chronically addicted people. Thus, you may take back your
life from both addiction and 12-step recovery, and live the rest of
your days free from the undertow of recovery groups and the stigma of
addict-identity. Because 12-step recovery undermines your identity and
independence, AVRT® helps you to sever from AA in thought and in deed,
as you will see in the AVRT Declaration of Personal Independence.
My family expects me to go to AA meetings.
many years, you defied your family’s wishes by drinking/using. You
caused them untold disappointment and misery, and while you were
feeling your addictive pleasures, they were frightened and depressed.
They cannot trust you, and they are desperate for anything that will
stop the insanity and destruction of your addiction.
Because your family loves the memory of you
prior to your addiction, they would rather think of you as a pathetic
disease victim than see you as the ugly, stinking ass you’ve become.
You forced them into cultural recoveryism, and now the recovery group movement wants to harvest
you and replace your original family values with recovery doctrines
that make your family tree the source of your misconduct. To the
injuries you’ve already caused your family, recovery groups now add the insults of
congenital addictive disease and the parallel disease of codependency, the accusations of "enabler" and "dysfunctional family," and a new, anti-family, core value system based purely upon the Addictive Voice.
recovery group offers your family false hope that you will quit
drinking and become one of the family again. Instead, they will be
expected to accept the uncertainty of your one-day-at-a-time sobriety,
while you systematically uproot beliefs, values and traditions deeply
rooted in your ancestral heritage. They will be told that they must
comply with recovery doctrines so you will not “have a relapse.” Your
recovery program, which we call recoveryism, will be more
destructive to the integrity of your family than your addiction has
been, even if you stay sober year after year. That is because your
recovery program will subvert the deep belief system at the taproot of
your family tree.
In order to protect them against the invasion
of one-day-at-a-time recoveryism, you must now defy their wishes once
again, even if they are directed by a physician or licensed counselor
to force you into recovery group participation. As long as you do not
drink, you are remaining loyal your family. In a very short time, you
will issue them a personal guarantee that you will never drink again,
along with an agreement that, as a user of alcohol and other drugs, you
are unfit for family membership.
Simply decline any further recovery group
attendance or addiction treatment, and tell them that one-day-at-a-time
sobriety isn’t good enough for them, nor good enough for you. Review
the Declaration of Personal Independence. Direct your famlily to this website, especially the Crash Course on AVRT® for Families of Addiction. They may also call us on the telephone with any questions they may have about AVRT-based recovery.
How do I get started in AVRT-based recovery?
are four levels of AVRT-based recovery, ranging from free of charge to
some very modest charges for goods and services, all leading to
immediate, total recovery, in this order:
1. You should start with the free materials, including the left column in the site map page. That is often sufficient to get a grip and get a new life after recovery. First, review the home page articles, Getting Started in Rational Recovery, Quick Start on AVRT, and The Barest Essentials of AVRT. Then, take the Crash Course on AVRT® and be sure to read the books, The Art of AVRT and Rational Recovery: The New Cure for Substance Addiction.
2. The Rational Recovery bookstore
also contains a number of excellent AVRT® learning materials including pay-per-view audio and videos previously available only on expensive DVD's and CD's. They are possibly the best values in the
addiction recovery field, setting forth simple instructions and in vivo demonstrations of AVRT® in real-life practice.
3. Subscribe for a few months to the Membership Area
of this website. Here, you will have access to a large database of
articles and program elements, including the Rational Recovery
Discussion Forums. Inside, you can look in on others learning AVRT® and
present your questions and concerns. Of first importance, is the
Advanced Crash Course on AVRT®, which is a more sophisticated version
of the Crash Course on AVRT®, above.
4. AVRTeleConference is five 1-hour sessions of direct instruction on AVRT-based recovery conducted by Jack Trimpey via standard telephone service or by FaceTime connection on a webcam/Mac, iMac, iPhone, or iPad. Family members usually sit in to witness AVRT and get answers to their questions. They share no burden of change other than to set a limit on how much longer they will tolerate the addiction. You will learn to build bridges back into relationships harmed by your addiction. The schedule is usually two sessions the first week, one session each of the next two weeks, and a final, closeout session a few months down the line, summarizing the experience and implications of life after recovery.