How to Make Your Big Plan Final:
the AVRT Declaration of Personal Independence
There is no doubt that recovery group participation directly blocks the pathway to addiction recovery. Recovery doctrines strongly support a state of uncertainty about continued use of alcohol and other drugs, often explicitly, as in "We all tried swearing off and that doesn't work. Stay sober just one-day-at-a-time, keep coming back, and you will finally have a lifetime of sobriety behind you." Alas, practically all members continue drinking/using by exercising their Option to have "relapses" whenever they feel like it, often resulting in devastating losses they cannot afford.
Part of the problem faced by recovery group participants is extreme ambivalence about continuing meetings that make little sense, and which seem to aggravate the desire to drink/use by constant attention to self-intoxication. Although the meetings are offensive for a number of reasons, there still remains a strong attachment to the groups that overrides one's desire to solve the problem independently, based upon his/her native beliefs and values. That strong desire to attend meetings is the Beast of addiction, an anti-family, animal mentality based upon the call of the wild, to run with a pack of one's own kind. That desire for cohorts of like kind is amplified by the addicted person's lack of confidence that addiction can realistically be defeated on one's own inspiration and strength of character, for that is the original problem that led one to the recovery group in the first place.
Recovery groups are fellowships of addicted people, created by and for addicted people, and they are naturally based upon the beliefs and values of addicted people and certainly not traditional family values such as the ones you learned in your family. If you listen carefully, you will suddenly notice that your recovery group is extremely anti-family, seeing your family as the origin of your addiction, in both genetic and psychological terms, as in addictive disease and in the belief that you are somehow tainted as an adult by a dysfunctional family environment during childhood. Even your current family will be identified as enablers and codependents, as if they are somehow the cause of your willful, planful, self-intoxication. Your group has probably told you that your family can never understand you unless they accept the disease concept of addiction, by which they will admit that your habitual self-intoxication is caused by an inherited family disease. In short, your recovery group is a surrogate family for substance abusers who, like you, are estranged by addiction from their families, and in that new family they obtain many of the benefits of family life such as acceptance, affection, socialization, and often sexual opportunity, all during prime-time, evening family hours.
So, it is quite understandable that you feel very ambivalent about continuing your association with a group of people who live away from their families, and practice a belief system found nowhere else than in rehabs, jails, and asylums, a belief system that uses spirituality and cognitive psychology as arguments against human nature and your original family values. Your are caught in a constellation of miseries we call recovery group disorder, or for short, recoveryism, explained elsewhere herein. Your thoughts are now haunted by extremely discouraging slogans such as, "You can't go it alone," "Keep comong back; it works if you work it," and "Every day I'm not working a good Program, I'm a day closer to my next relapse." The problem is worsened when a glorious relapse starts looking pretty good after all those mind-numbing meetings. A recovery group "hook" for members in the process of dropping out is the seemingly friendly and caring invitation, "If you ever need us, we'll be here." This family-like parting embrace remains an open enticement that, "When the going gets tough, and I finally relapse, I can always go crawling back to Mother Group, and I will be met with warmth and understanding by others wearing the team harness of group recoveryism, caring people who will place the worn leather back upon my shoulders." Here, recovery groups use relapse as the carrot and relapse anxiety as the stick, to keep people coming back. It is difficult to imagine a more diabolical scheme.
Time to get a grip.
AVRT is the exit door from addiction and recovery group disorder. The Addictive Voice is any thinking that supports or suggests the possible future use of alcohol or other drugs. It so happens that every word of recovery doctrines, whether spiritual or psychological, directly or indirectly supports the Option to drink/use under conditions that seem to warrant "relapse." Therefore recovery doctrines are by definition the Addictive Voice. It's no damn wonder you've been struggling without satisfaction for so many years.
Many people who consciously reject any
further affiliation with recovery groups report significant
improvement in their moods. They also find that summarily rejecting recovery group doctrines steels their sense of personal responsibility and facilitates execution and affirmation of the Big Plan. A central concept of AVRT
is the Declaration of
Personal Independence, which we recommend for recovery
groupers getting started AVRT-based recovery:
I will never attend another recovery group meeting of any kind,
nor will I obtain professional services for the purpose of addiction recovery.
When you contemplate this plan, notice the mixed feelings about personal independence, first the sense of freedom and dignity, then the dread of impending failure, and then also, don't forget the glorious gratifications of relapse in both modes of living. That's quite an education in itself! That is an opportunity for you to begin the I/it split that is essential to the Big Plan of AVRT-based recovery. A cute example of the I/it split is the different meanings of this comment, "I will strike out on my own." Get it? Which will it be?
Making this commitment is nothing more nor less than accepting
personal, moral responsibility for your own conduct. That's
all it is, but neverthess usually produces a cringing feeling,
similar to that which accompanies execution of a Big Plan.
This distress signifies the Beast's fundamental attachment
to AA; AA is the embodiment of the Beast, and the DPI vividly
illustrates this fact.
It is difficult for AVRTers to take full personal responsibility for their personal conduct, when alcoholic absolution (AA) is so conveniently at hand in every community. When AA forces itself by intimidation or the force of law, which is increasingly the case, it takes considerable courage to set a course based on self-reliance and moral principle. Toward this end, AVRT always includes straightforward advice to stay away from recovery groups of all kinds.
Along with the relapse anxiety caused by
AA's disease concept, however, comes an immediate, simultaneous
sense of liberation, and genuine readiness for permanent
abstinence. As long as the option of more meetings exists, the Beast will present see recovery groups as a big soft mattress
into which one may drunkenly fall, innocent, diseased, forgiven,
and grateful. Thus the promise of recovery doctrines, "We'll always
be there for you," has the paradoxical effect of making
"relapse" appear more inviting. The DPI sets you
up with total responsibility for abstinence, and
the impact is quite forceful and significant. Don't give
your Beast the option of AA; just let it be homesick and
die of a broken heart.
idea of mixing AVRT-based recovery with group recoveryism is bizarre —
"I will never drink/use again, so why am I coming back?" The idea of combining AVRT with addiction
treatment or recovery group participation is like putting training
wheels on a new, Harley Davison motorcycle. AVRT means freedom and
dignity without assistive devices!
hope you are impressed with the way that AVRT evolves, based on the
real-life success of self-recovered people, rather than upon the
ramblings of spiritually inspired zealots, the theories of never-addicted psychologists, or the pronouncements of
government-funded scientists. Remember, AVRT is essentially a summary
of universal family values and does not introduce you to the PBS (psychological bullshit syndrome), medical mumbo-jumbo, group occultism, or New Age silliness. Stay who you are, and work the wisdom that allowed your ancestors to survive adversity!